By Asanda Masoka
This article is exclusive to the Online Edition 6 of VARSITY.
“We’re young and have our whole lives ahead of us – why does it feel like we’re running out of time to get our lives together?” There’s a simple answer to this question, really. The fear that we hold of having to have ‘our lives together’ is perpetuated by two powerful systems: social media and our parents.
Social media, both a friend and a foe. You see, the thing about social media is that it’s curated – people are always living their best lives, everyone has their ducks in a row and their eyebrows are without fail, always on fleek. Well, with that in mind, who wouldn’t feel like they need to get their lives together? However, for your sanity, it’s good to remember that it’s all a curation. We’ll honestly never fully know what goes on behind the scenes when the cameras aren’t rolling.
We’re often so focused on the lives that we see on our screens that we miss the fact that we need to move at our own pace and on our own terms. We need to move at a rate that is healthy to our unique, character-building journey. We all have purpose and with that, a unique journey that is tailored to carry us through to the fulfilment of it.
As for our parents, they just want the best for us, so much so that we want the best for ourselves since we know that they are rooting for us 110%. But our parents often hold unrealistic expectations of us that border on the verge of blind optimism. It’s both cute and disappointing because it seems as though they forget that life isn’t clear-cut. What started out as a 3-year degree has now turned into a 5-year one, and that is just life.
It is this ‘fake pressure’ that comes from these two powerful systems that have us feeling like we need to get our lives together. It is because of these systems that we are chasing a timeline of achievements that we didn’t create for ourselves. As if the saying “own race, own pace” couldn’t be reiterated more, it reads like an anthem to this dilemma.
You can discover your favorite band when you’re in your late 20s. You can meet your best friend when you’re in your 30s. You can finally accomplish a life goal when you’re in your 50s. Your youth isn’t the only time frame where amazing, life-changing things can happen.
— WE THE URBAN (@WeTheUrban) February 2, 2018
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